Do You Have a Porn Addiction

For some men this might be a confronting question, but for someone who knows they have a porn addiction, it is possibly one of the most confronting questions they could encounter. Once we have explored more about porn addictions the reasons for this may become clearer.

So, do you have an addiction to porn?

Firstly, let's understand what we are talking about. The term 'porn' itself probably doesn't need much clarification. However, the term 'addiction' is something that is often used very freely in our society to define a broad range of behaviours.

There are an infinite number of different ways that addiction has been defined, but one of the most generic and simplest is Wikipedia's definition of it as "a continued involvement with a substance or activity despite the negative consequences associated with it".

From this definition it is clear that the term 'addiction' could be applied to any number of different challenges. Alcohol and drug addictions are commonly understood issues in our society. Other addictions that counsellors might regularly encounter include sex addictions, gaming addictions, TV addictions, etc. There is a debate within the helping professional about whether porn addictions actually exist, and whether they should be classed in the same was as other 'addictions'.

So while someone may be addicted to something like porn or gaming, it does not suggest that the behaviour or the activity itself is problematic or an 'issue'. Issues and problems relating to addiction generally only apply when the behaviour is ongoing and continues, despite impacting negatively on other areas of one's life or the life of those around you.

Porn itself often carries a negative stigma. This may originate from a family or religious value system. As a result, some people may find that they have a number of responses or reactions to their behaviour, either during or after having viewed pornography. For someone who has been raised with values that suggests porn is 'wrong', there can be a sense of guilt or shame. Other elements of self-judgement can arise too, such as thinking that one may be a 'bad person' or 'feeling worthy-less' or worthless. For many men accessing porn may be something that they do in secret, either a secret that they keep alone, or possibly one that is shared with a close friend or partner.

So what is the difference between simply watching porn and being addicted to porn?.

Perhaps you can ask yourself these questions:

1. Do you access porn on a regular basis? Perhaps more than once per week?

2. Do you notice any anxiety within yourself if you aren't able to access porn as often as you'd like?

3. Are parts of your life being negatively impacted because you are accessing porn?

4. Are any of the relationships in your life being affected?

5. Do you often intend to do some other activity and then somehow find yourself accessing porn instead?.

6. Are you regularly getting less sleep than you should because of porn?

7. When you access porn do you often find yourself spending far more time than you had intended?

8. Have you increased your broadband plan to accommodate your porn needs?

9. Do you often tell yourself you're going to stop or you're going to limit the amount of porn you access, but then it doesn't actually happen?.

I'm not going to tell you that because you've answered these questions with a 'yes' that you definitely have a porn addiction. To do so would simply add to the 'judgements' that you've possibly already heaped on yourself. However, if some of these questions do apply to you, then perhaps there is something there for you to explore.